Hi muna! First of all just wanted to say I tea your blog all the time and appreciate your candid and moving posts. My question is this: how did you get involved in sorority life? What was your sorority experience? When and how did it start? And is it worthwhile? Thanks!
“Ohh I will be loyal and show that I care, You’ll know who I am By the Pin that I wear. To each my sisters, I will always be true and share Joys and Sorrows with you.”
To start with, thank you for asking one of the best questions I have been asked ever! If you knew me, you would know I love and appreciate my sorority and my sisters in insanely high amounts. I have written about this before and i have tons of pictures of my sisters and my chapter. Click here for pictures, here for other links and here for a video i LOVE!
When I went to UVA in the Fall of 2010, I had no idea about anything that was Greek. My RA was a KD (love you Rana <3 ) and she encouraged my whole hall to rush that coming spring. But since it was the all girls international hall, not many were interested but me really. Me being the Palestinian FOB girl who didn’t go to frat parties because she found them disgusting was looking into rushing a sorority at a southern school. It was pretty insane if you asked me. But not really. See, I came from a wealthy family, went to private schools my whole life, got along great with girls, loved helping others, and loved to be social. My close friend from back home knew I was going to be a sorority girl just because of the type of personality I had. So it was kind of insane but not really.
I was the first in my family to even think about going Greek. I’m muslim and I wear the headscarf and sororities have a reputation, you know. My family thought I had gone insane when I told them I had to go back early to UVa because I wanted to join a sisterhood that was kept together by 2 or 3 Greek letters and a set of rituals. Ofcourse, my mother thought I was joining a cult, but she let me do as I pleased because you know that is how mothers are, they want you to do what makes you happy. So I rushed. My first thought? “Oh boy” What did I get myself into? Im Pi Chi came over to my room the night before rush and calmed me down, talked me through it, and reassured me the houses and sisters were going to love me. So the next day, I got up, didn’t think much about what I wore, it was snappy casual and to me that meant Jeans and a nice button down with boots. I walked down rugby rd, UVa’s Frat row, and lined up infront of my first house, the ADPi house. First round was 25 mins and I don’t know how I survived. I was so nervous and my god where the sisters at the ADPi house sweet. But I didn’t feel at ease there, it didn’t feel like home. I moved on to the next house and the house after that and the house after that till I got to the KD house, a house I initially thought I wanted to be sister of. The girls were as sweet as can be, and not the fake sweet, no, they were genuine and friendly and their house was stunning. Then came the XO house. My favorite author was a XO so I was dead sure if not KD then XO. They have this cute house on chancellor with these pretty stairs and this long big table where they have dinner as a chapter sometimes as one of the sisters told me. My friend Rebecca was a XO and I got to see her there. I spoke with another girl about the most interesting things. I love XO, till today I even say if I wasn’t a GPhi, I’d be a XO. Then we moved on to another house, which I will not name .It was one of the worst experiences I had during Rush. They were mean and rude and I just didn’t understand why. They are one of the top houses at UVa and they are known to have very smart girls who know how to have a good time. I guess since I wasn’t pre-picked on their list they didn’t care. Point is, it was horrible. Then we moved to PiPhi and SK, two houses I liked. Till this point I hadn’t really felt at home at any of these houses. Then We walk up to this house with a pink roof at 510 17th st and I found home. From the moment I walked in to the moment I walked out, I was smiling. I knew right then and there I was going to be a Gamma Phi Beta.
As rush moved on, I got dropped from all houses, and I remember my Pi Chi being really scared to give me my list, but as soon as I got it and it had Gamma Phi Beta on it, I smiled so hard and hugged her. Prefes night, I remember my now sister Jessica giving her testimonial about how GPhi accepted her for who she was and didn’t care about anything else. Bid day came and pi chi told me I got a bid. I ran to newcomb hall to meet her and literally snatched the bid from her hand and hugged and thanked her a 1000x. I called accepted my bid and by the time I got home, I had over 85 friend requests, all from my new sisters wanting to welcome me to their sisterhood. It was one of the greatest days. See, by this time, I had gained 30 pounds since starting college, I was depressed, had mild acne I tried to hide under make up and I was a bit socially awkward. But they didn’t care, they really didn’t. When I meet my pledge class and the rest of the sisters that night I saw the diversity that Gamma Phi holds so valuable. These girls weren’t all size 2’s with blond hair, no these girls were real girls and women. Still growing and still figuring out who they are. It was beautiful and still is. If you are looking for a place that will take you as is, and do nothing but help you become a better person, then look no further than Gamma Phi.
However, it isn’t all butterflies and rainbows and there are some girls who are mean and rude in every sorority. I didn’t get along with a few of my sisters and there are a few that I still don’t like and who are mean and ignore other sisters, but see when I pledge my loyalty to my sorority, I pledged my loyalty to The 3 Greek letters Gamma, Phi and Beta, to the international sorority, to the history that came with it, not just to my chapter. And boy, did I pledge my loyalty to the best sorority. Every Gamma Phi that I have meet outside my sorority has been amazing to me. Girls from Clemson, USC, UGA, VTech, UNCA, GMU, W&M, ST. JOHNs, etc have been great. Im currently looking to apply to schools that only have Gphi chapters because it is such a huge part of me.
Is it worthwhile? Well, as any Gphi would tell you, HECK YES! From the crescent moon to the snaps, to the Brown and Mode, Gamma Phi Beta will always and forever have a place in my heart. GO GREEK! GO GAMMA PHI!