So before reading this, watch this video, as the whole essence of this post relies mostly on this videos content.
Ok now that you are speechless and maybe a little turned on, let me have your full attention. Answer these questions: can Muslim women be sexy? Should they be sexy? Doesn’t it defy the purpose of the hijab to be sexy? These questions have been the center of many conversations in modern Muslim societies with the increase of women wearing the hijab and increase in the amount of hijabi’s interested in fashion and dressing according to trends. Just like many young women, Muslim women have managed over the past 20 years to transform the hijab from something that was basic and black to something that is beautiful, unique to ever individual, colorful, and attractive in some way. Maybe it is that whole “you cant see what’s underneath this” mystery that drives guys crazy or maybe it’s the whole “saving myself for that one and only” that has gotten guys to become attracted to hijabi women. From my personal experience, I have been told many, many times that the hijab amplifies my beauty and makes my facial features stand out. Besides my face, I have been told by many men, Middle Eastern and other ethnicities, that they find the hijab sexy because of the mystery behind it, like “what are you hiding and can I please see it” type of thing. I guess it is kind of like lace, you can see some of the skin but not all of it, and all you want is to see all of the soft skin but you want to be the only one to see it. Point is, some of the most beautiful and attractive females I know wear the hijab, and yes they might not show their skin or hair, but they still manage to capture the attention of everyone for all the right reasons.
This might come as a surprise to many people but Muslim women DO have hair, and most of the time it is breathtaking and beautiful. You really don’t know what happens behind closed doors. Honestly, many of my hall mates my first and second year of college were beyond surprised to see me walk around the dorm with short shorts and a tank top with my hair down. Before meeting me they believed that Muslim women were so “oppressed” that even behind closed doors they had to wear the headscarf. But that can’t be any further from the truth. Muslim women are capable of enjoying fashion and trends just as much as non-Muslim women, some trends indoors and some outdoors depending on how comfortable the woman is with the trend and if it suits her modest standers or not. But back to what happens behind closed doors, and this applies to women in general, not everything we do is for guys and their eyes to see. Some women enjoy wearing sexy lingerie underneath their clothes because it gives them confidence. Some women like to sleep in lacy sexy nightgowns even if their sleeping alone, I know I do,just because they like feeling sexy for themselves. So what does this all mean? Well just like in the video, you would never expect the ending to be what it is because of the stereotypes people associate with women who wear the Burka and Muslim women in general. The point of this commercial is to break stereotypes and boundaries, and in my opinion it does a great job at doing so.
After posting this video on my facebook page a few months ago a former male friend of mine, who was of Middle Eastern decent, sent me along message explaining how this video along with getting to know me on a personal level has changed his perception on covered Muslim women. It is good to note that this does not mean I represent all Muslim women to him but I represent an existing sector of covered Muslim women that not many people know about or chose to ignore for personal unknown reasons. Also, the majority of my gay male friends along with my sorority sisters have seen me without my headscarf and in little clothing, and at first they were surprised but after hearing about what happens behind my closed doors, they began to change their views on the headscarf. Point is, we shouldn’t judge people based on what they believe in or how they dress. I’m less modest then my friend who is Christian and wears short shorts and tank tops. But people will never guess because of stereotypes and preconceived conceptions of what the hijab and how we dress all means.